Body language when falling in love at the man
Are you at a point with your partner where you wonder what his or her true feelings are? Have there been signs that he's falling in love with you but you're still not sure? You've come to the right place.
In this article we will cover the top 15 signs that your man is falling head over heels for you and also a new emerging concept that can help the falling in love process.
But first let's take a look at the signs and body language that are usually present when a man begins to feel more than just a physical attraction to his partner.
It can be hard to know how he's feeling and if he's the type who keeps his feelings in, you might feel like there's no way to tell.
The good news is that the signs below are basically non-verbal ways of expressing his feelings.
He won't even realize his body language is different.
Read on to find out if any of these body language signs match your guy's and what you can do to unlock his forever affection and love.
Body language signs
1. He's naturally attracted to you
When it comes to attraction and personal space, love leaves little room for question. When we fall in love, the need and desire to be close to our partner increases.
Through his body language and closeness he is unconsciously conveying several signals to let you know that he wants to be intimate with you both emotionally and physically.
While this may be a common sign of a man who also lusts after you, lack of personal space and long touches will increase and occur more often with a man who is in love with you.
2. Reflect your body language
One surefire way to know your man loves you is how his actions will begin to mirror yours.
He won't even realize it's happening, but subtle gestures like licking your lips or taking a sip of your drink will notice him and he'll automatically mimic those motions.
The same may happen with words; The common phrases you use will be adopted by him and you will notice him repeating your strange words or slang expressions.
It may all seem insignificant but the meaning behind it is powerful. When he mirrors you, this indicates that he feels comfortable around you and enjoys your behavior and company.
The reflection also makes him feel close to you. By imitating your words or actions he is effectively putting himself on your side.
He's trying to understand life from your point of view all while building a closer emotional understanding with you.
3. Protects you instinctively
A very clear body language sign of a guy falling in love is if he is protecting you.
These can be small signs like standing between you and traffic when you walk or an instinctive reaction to stop the door from slamming into you on the way out.
The point is, he wants to look out for you and make sure you're safe especially when you're with him. His biological urges drive him to protect you.
This may seem like an old way of thinking but the need for care and protection occurs in both men and women.
Whether it is protecting your partner, the vulnerable, the elderly, or children, there is something deep within us that makes us feel good when we look out for others.
Now add in all the other loving feelings he's feeling and it becomes inevitable that being protective of you will come naturally to him.
Feeling protective of you shows that he loves you and he might be in this for the long haul.
4. He wants to be your everyday hero
As I mentioned above, men are naturally protective of women. A study published in the Journal of Physiology and Behavior found that testosterone in males makes them feel protected when their mate is intact.
Does your man protect you? Not only from physical harm but does he make sure that you are protected when any negative situation arises?
Congratulations. This is a sure sign that he loves you.
In fact, there's a cool new concept in relationship psychology that's getting a lot of buzz right now. It goes to the heart of the mystery of why men fall in love — and who they fall in love with.
It's called the hero instinct.
The theory claims that men want to be your everyday hero. They want women to be present in their lives, to secure and protect them.
This is deeply rooted in male biology.
A man will not fall in love with you when he does not feel that he is your hero.
He wants to see himself as a protector. As someone you really want and need. Not as an accessory, "best friend" or "partner in crime".
I know this may sound a little silly. In this day and age women don't need anyone to save them. They don't need a "hero" in their lives.
I couldn't agree more.
But here's the ironic truth. Men still need to be a hero. Because it is in our DNA to seek out relationships that allow us to feel like protectors.
5. He is always happy when you are around
The feeling a person experiences when falling in love is on par with the feelings of euphoria that come with cocaine use. It's a powerful feeling that can bring up all kinds of emotions.
In those early stages of love for your man the world seems brighter and life is better and there is a marked optimism in his life.
It feels incredible but what your man probably doesn't realize is that many chemical changes are going on inside of him.
These changes include high levels of dopamine and norepinephrine in the system which stimulate us and make us feel dizzy and euphoric. Dopamine release is very much our body's way of rewarding ourselves so it's no wonder the feeling of love can be addictive.
Which is certainly a reasonable reason why he can't control his pleasure when you're around; Just getting close to him can trigger these intense feelings of pure joy and euphoria.
6. Too much eye contact
Eye contact usually begins before love even comes onto the scene. From your first date eye contact will play a major role in developing the bond you share with your partner.
Maintaining eye contact with your partner lets you know that they have your undivided attention and can make you appear more trustworthy than someone who can never keep their gaze for very long.
It is also believed that a chemical is released when we have prolonged eye contact with a partner - phenylethylamine. This feel-good stimulant is released when you start to feel an attraction towards someone and can increase feelings of love.
So when a guy falls in love staring into your eyes even when you are talking about the weather will be uncontrollable.
Many people get nervous when looking directly into another person's eyes for long periods of time, so if your man can't stop himself from staring into your eyes, this is a great sign that he feels comfortable being around you and that his feelings are strong.
7. Mydriasis
Dilated pupils are hard to detect, but they are very strong indicators that a person likes or is attracted to their partner.
It's thought that oxytocin and dopamine can play a role in making your pupils dilate, and since they're known as love chemicals, it makes sense that this reaction might occur when you're experiencing feelings of love.
All the extra hormones that will flow through it can cause the pupil to increase in size but this can be difficult to tell because the eye naturally reacts to different levels of light.
Depending on your setup you may be able to clearly see the chemical reactions taking place just by looking into his eyes.
8. He can't help but stare at you
It's the classic sign that someone likes you and we've all seen an abundance of romantic movies that depict the actress walking away while he stares longingly at her.
So why do people stare more when they are in love?
Well many people are attracted to looking at your partner. When a man stares it's because he finds you physically attractive and enjoys looking at you.
One note when it comes to staring - it matters where you stare. If he's focused on your face, you're sure he's infatuated with you and can't get enough of your features.
Sometimes he is aware of this and other times he is not. Just as he feels physically attracted to you his eyes will also naturally follow you because he craves your presence and subconsciously tries to rehearse your body language just as you are with him.
Another way he might stare is when you're walking away from him, so the next time you leave a table at a restaurant to use the toilet, take a look back and see if he's watching you.
9. A touch of lingering
Just as his sight may slow, so will his touch. Different from flirtatious touches which may happen more at first these types of touches will last long enough to let you know they mean more.
Again this is not done on purpose but since he is in love he naturally wants to feel close to you. He wants to touch you in ways that show it's more than just sexual intimacy. There's an emotional connection in the mix now, too.
10. You have his full attention
In a world full of distractions, having someone's sole, undivided attention can be rare. We are often distracted by our phones, emails, or tweets.
And while it's nice to get distracted sometimes you'll know he's falling in love with you because he'll always care about you.
Whatever you're talking about whether it appeals to him or not, he'll keep his focus on you letting you know he cares about what you have to say.
One way he might emphasize his attention on you is by putting his phone away. When you're talking or having dinner together, keeping his phone out of sight is a clear indication that he doesn't want any distractions while he's with you.
In addition, having someone fully involved in what you're saying can be a great reward because not only do you feel valued and heard, active listening means they get to know you and understand you better.
11. He appears to be short of breath
In the body language of falling in love with a man, besides all the excitement of seeing you, you may find that your partner often seems to be short of breath.
Maybe he just had an awkward encounter with you and seems flustered, or you complimented him and he's out of breath.
Our breathing is closely linked to our emotions. World-renowned shaman Rhoda Iande explains the profound connection between what we feel and our breathing:
There is a respiratory pattern for every emotion you feel and we can take two conclusions from this. Firstly the way you breathe affects your emotions and secondly your emotions affect the way you breathe.
While this is a pretty subtle body language sign that you can pick up on if your guy looks a little flushed in the face or is breathing harder and faster than usual.
12. He bows when he talks to you
When there is attraction between couples they will often lean across the table when talking to each other.
Doing so naturally reduces the distance between them, creates a more sensual atmosphere, and prevents distraction from the rest of the world around you.
If your man finds any excuse to approach you, even if it's only when he's talking, then this indicates that he wants to keep the focus between the two of you. This indicates that he is also paying attention to you - the more he is in your personal space, the more he will focus on you alone.
13. He sweats a lot when you're around
This may not be the most romantic sign of the group but there is more to it than just a bad smell.
Research has been done on how attractive sweat can be and especially the smell of sweat that appears once you see it. This is because it is believed that pheromones are released when men sweat, making them attractive to women.
Unsurprisingly, how to make race attractive comes up short. Once sweat gets old or mixed with other scents it becomes less pleasant and can even become disgusting so it's all about finding the right balance.
With that in mind your man will naturally sweat around you whether you like the scent or not. In situations where he feels excited, stimulated or stressed he will sweat more.
This is his body's way of dealing with different situations and regardless of whether that is a sign or not, it could be a great indication that he is feeling some intense feelings when he is with you.
14. He is not afraid to show affection in public
In today's world a relationship seems real once it is made public. This means no holding back in public between each other's families and when it comes to social media.
One very clear body language sign that he's falling in love with you is when he doesn't hesitate to hold your hand, put his arm around your shoulders, or kiss you for the whole world to see. In other words, PDA (public emotional outreach) will become normal.
According to relationship expert Susan Winter:
PDA can act as cement to validate a partner's desire to make the love relationship official. When we hold hands or put our arm around our partner in public we show the outside world that we are proud to have this person as our partner. It is a form of verification that establishes “duality.”
Many people avoid these public displays of affection until they are sure that the person they are seeing is really what they want. Once he starts to fall in love the doubts and hesitations he had before will disappear and he will feel more comfortable in public with you.
15. Some conversations make him nervous
Being nervous when falling in love is normal – the sudden rush of emotions, vulnerability, and uncertainty of the future can make even the most stable person feel a little nervous.
In the body language of a man falling in love, you may notice that your man reacts nervously to certain topics, especially if they relate to your topic. Or on the topic of your past.
When it comes to talking about your relationship, he may feel nervous if you don't specify where he is in the relationship, and he may not want to be disappointed if you don't share his feelings of love.
When it comes to your past, the man who falls in love for you probably won't want to hear about all your past relationships. This is because at the time he falls in love his emotions will be much higher than usual and his rational thinking will be much lower.
This sign can be easily tested by bringing up an unfamiliar topic and seeing how your partner reacts. The goal is not to make him angry or upset, but just to see his first reaction to the topic.
16. He always looks his best
Your partner will naturally want to impress you if they're in love with you so looking your best self will be high on their agenda (especially in the beginning).
Although you won't be able to see the grooming he's already starting to show, pay attention to signs that he's trying to keep himself clean.
As written in Psychology Today when it comes to physical attractiveness:
Women are drawn to physical characteristics that are indicative of good health and a potential ability to provide protection and security — broad shoulders with narrow hips, athleticism, a strong jawline, and a deep voice.
Although men do not experience the same pressures as women when it comes to dress codes, hair and makeup, there is still a lot that can go into improving one's appearance.
And while he can't develop a strong jawline or broaden his shoulders, he can make efforts in other areas, from keeping himself neatly shaved to always wearing the best cologne before meeting you.
What's Next?
You have read the points above and now you are finding out if any of them match the body language of falling in love with a guy.
Whether the answer is an obvious yes or you're still on the fence about his or her feelings, there is something that might help unlock the depths of your partner's love.
I'm referring to the hero instinct which is a concept I mentioned earlier developed by relationship psychologist James Bauer.
In His Secret Obsession, Bauer delves into men's biological drive to be protective of the women they love.
Although treating your man like a hero may seem like age-old relationship advice, what Bauer has discovered is that there are some simple, elementary ways you can treat your man that will unlock this biological instinct.
Trying to find out if a guy likes you or not is not as easy as it sounds but hopefully with the above tips you can find out how your man feels about you.
It is always important to note that everyone acts differently in love and for some they appreciate the journey and enjoy every second of it. For others it can be a time of uncertainty so they may move forward in the relationship with caution.
It's always a good idea to let your partner reveal their feelings in their own way and at their own pace. While some of the above points can be experienced spontaneously, in most cases you will only know that he is in love thanks to your gut instinct and feelings.
